There is a reason why text messages have a character limit - 160 to be exact. It's almost the same amount of words that can be written on a postcard. Take the hint, guys.
Texting isn't rocket science, but that doesn't stop some people from making errors which can't be neglected. In our society, we have established certain norms that are expected to be followed. Attraction is a tricky thing. It provides strength to people who are willing to do anything and everything for the other person. With the growth of technology, human interaction has switched from face-to-face conversations to a more digital approach. Therefore, understanding, adapting, and following standard communication practices has become a necessity.
Instead of the debacle that we just witnessed in the above message, try saying - Hey, (name)! How was your weekend? Hope you haven't forgotten about our date this Wednesday! or I was watching a (movie/TV show name) and (the character's name) reminded me of you. Impressing a girl in your first ever text to her is crucial. Plus, you may not be the only guy interested in her or trying to initiate a conversation. Many guys have the ability to get a girl's number, but how they use it afterwards is the key. What you need to concentrate on is how to make her notice you from the very beginning, and that she's made the right decision by giving you her number.
Boring Messages, Missing Individuality
This is definitely what you don't want to happen. Failing to connect with the girl you like is a disaster; especially when text messages can't convey deep, personal feelings. You want to familiarize yourself with the girl. But that won't happen if you're boring in your texts and can't set yourself apart from the other men who are trying to woo her. Do not make the mistake of thinking that you might be the only one messaging her. She cannot find you interesting enough to text and eventually talk to if you're boring her from the beginning. Be interesting in your approach; don't just message her to find out 'how she is'.
Making Unnecessary Assumptions
This was a simple conversation between two friends or classmates; there can be various other scenarios here. The guy is texting the girl to hold a conversation, stating genuine issue, and trying to get her to respond and involve her into his life. Her replies can mean two things - one, she likes the boy a lot and is happy that he considered her to help him out, and hence, wishes to help him; two, she's helping him out as a friend. More often than not, guys misunderstand why a girl is replying to their texts. You may jump to the conclusion that she's attracted to you, and hence, is moving the conversation forward. So the point is, don't jump to conclusions or make assumptions before having The talk regarding how each of you feel about one another. Random, day-to-day conversations don't mean a lot when you see the big picture.
Not Mentioning the Girl's Name
Girls don't like it when you address them with words like beautiful, gorgeous, honey, sweetie, etc.; it looks really disrespectful when instead of using these words as a compliment, it is used to acknowledge them with. Not typing her name in your texts can also mean that you may have forgotten her name or perhaps call all girls in the same manner. If the latter is true, it's a huge turn-off for women.
Text conversations and face-to-face conversations are two different things; no use mixing them. Keep formal greetings at bay and get to the good part sooner. You don't have to write a thesis; write lesser, more interesting words or technique to make your point. If you think that the only way to get to know the girl is by sending her long texts, in hopes of receiving similar texts, it's not the right move.
Sending Too Many Texts Before Getting a Reply
Alright, those messages were a disaster. Literally, there is no going back once a guy sends such texts to a girl. I hope you understood why we advice you to stay away from the urge to send such text messages. On a different type of conversation, like sending random texts that serve no purpose, if a guy sends 2 - 3 texts one after the other, without giving the girl a chance to reply to at least one of them, it only invites trouble. This habit shows that the guy is too eager and/or can bring disturbing news. So the advice is, don't do this. Wait, and give the girl some breathing space. Also, just ask the girl out instead of beating around the bush and wasting both of your time.
I guess the smartphones are playing a trick on all of us. Autocorrection of words is something we've all had issues with. So before you press 'Send', make sure that you've typed the words correctly and the message is exactly what you want to say. As for guys who are on the receiving end of such messages, handle sensitive topics like weight, beauty, etc., with utmost care.
Do you normally have the same questions or things to talk about with your friends? Do you wear the same clothes or eat the same food everyday? No, right! Then what's with the habitual questions or messaging at a regular time? Girls want to be surprised and want to talk about different things. If you make the mistake of repeating your conversations with her, she might not respond the next time you text her.
Making Deliberate Dates without Her Consent
Assuming you can make a date without her agreeing to it in the first place? Wow, gutsy, but an immature move. You cannot think that just because the girl gave you her number, she'll automatically go out with you. At that particular moment, while giving you her number, you seemed charming. She needs to know that you're the same person; or maybe more.
Accusing Her of Being Something She May Not Be
You should never, ever accuse a girl of being a player or the fact that she's leading you on. It's rude and doesn't really settle well with girls. If a girl is genuinely busy and/or hasn't been able to reply to your messages once or twice, it doesn't automatically mean she's playing hard to get. On another note, if you do have proof that this has happened on countless occasions, then and only then you're free to assume so (and basically move on).
Sharing Every Detail of the Day with Her
Yes, she seems interested in you. And yes, she's replying to your messages. But don't think that she wants to find out what you're doing at that very moment. Not everything that happens with us in our lives is enjoyable for others. Maybe not sharing every detail is a good thing, and keeping a bit of mystery might intrigue her as well.
Just because you two text one another, doesn't mean she wants to get intimate. A guy should not initiate dirty talks if the girl isn't comfortable with it. Also, stay away from passing inappropriate comments about a girl. If these habits persist, she could choose to block your number and/or report you. So don't make this mistake before knowing what's in her heart.
Being Possessive Before Even Going on a Date
Girls try to stay as far away as possible from possessive boys. So when you start behaving in that manner, that too without even going on a date with her, it crosses over to being scary. Everybody likes their freedom, and when someone, anyone tries to point fingers at it, the situation can get out of hand pretty quickly.
If you're not in your senses, you may not be able to control yourself from texting her. A good way to avoid this situation is to keep your cell phone with a trustworthy friend. This way, you avoid drunk texting and won't jeopardize anything with the girl you're into.
Texting Regularly, then Disappearing
As much as guys hate when girls play hard to get, it's the same for girls as well. When you show interest in a girl and she reciprocates, she's expecting you to take it forward. But when a guy makes the mistake of not keeping in touch and thinks that he can just come back, and things will be alright, he's got another thing coming. Don't treat a girl like she's not important to you.
Taking Too Long to Respond to Her Texts
I didn't see your text. Sorry we couldn't make the plans for last weekend. Maybe some other time?
If she messages you on Tuesday, don't wait till Sunday to reply to her text. It's not cool. Plus, she's not going to be waiting around for your reply. Also, this behavior is rude and uncalled-for. Treat a girl with respect and you shall get a positive response. A girl likes it when a guy is attentive and interested in what she has to say. But don't text her back in like 2 seconds; that'll be too weird.
Guys, I'm going to level with you. There are countless moments in life when you will wonder, what does a girl actually want in life. And the answer will always be - uncertain. Girls, at times, really don't know what they're looking for in a guy. This results in unnecessary squabbling and misunderstandings. So the next time you're confused as to what to say in a text, just don't do all the things I've mentioned in this article. And I hope that'll be enough. Good luck!
Texting isn't rocket science, but that doesn't stop some people from making errors which can't be neglected. In our society, we have established certain norms that are expected to be followed. Attraction is a tricky thing. It provides strength to people who are willing to do anything and everything for the other person. With the growth of technology, human interaction has switched from face-to-face conversations to a more digital approach. Therefore, understanding, adapting, and following standard communication practices has become a necessity.
It may seem that only guys fumble for words or end up upsetting the girls they wish to attract. But this isn't the case; even girls can make texting mistakes. So let this article be a guide to anyone and everyone who want to know the pitfalls of sending text messages.
Texting Styles that Turn Women Off
There are many things guys do, that, more often than not, baffle girls. These include sending certain types of texts and not following universally-accepted texting practices. If you don't want to make such mistakes with the girl you're attracted to, make it a point to read the rest of this article.
Instead of the debacle that we just witnessed in the above message, try saying - Hey, (name)! How was your weekend? Hope you haven't forgotten about our date this Wednesday! or I was watching a (movie/TV show name) and (the character's name) reminded me of you. Impressing a girl in your first ever text to her is crucial. Plus, you may not be the only guy interested in her or trying to initiate a conversation. Many guys have the ability to get a girl's number, but how they use it afterwards is the key. What you need to concentrate on is how to make her notice you from the very beginning, and that she's made the right decision by giving you her number.
Boring Messages, Missing Individuality
This is definitely what you don't want to happen. Failing to connect with the girl you like is a disaster; especially when text messages can't convey deep, personal feelings. You want to familiarize yourself with the girl. But that won't happen if you're boring in your texts and can't set yourself apart from the other men who are trying to woo her. Do not make the mistake of thinking that you might be the only one messaging her. She cannot find you interesting enough to text and eventually talk to if you're boring her from the beginning. Be interesting in your approach; don't just message her to find out 'how she is'.
Making Unnecessary Assumptions
This was a simple conversation between two friends or classmates; there can be various other scenarios here. The guy is texting the girl to hold a conversation, stating genuine issue, and trying to get her to respond and involve her into his life. Her replies can mean two things - one, she likes the boy a lot and is happy that he considered her to help him out, and hence, wishes to help him; two, she's helping him out as a friend. More often than not, guys misunderstand why a girl is replying to their texts. You may jump to the conclusion that she's attracted to you, and hence, is moving the conversation forward. So the point is, don't jump to conclusions or make assumptions before having The talk regarding how each of you feel about one another. Random, day-to-day conversations don't mean a lot when you see the big picture.
Not Mentioning the Girl's Name
Girls don't like it when you address them with words like beautiful, gorgeous, honey, sweetie, etc.; it looks really disrespectful when instead of using these words as a compliment, it is used to acknowledge them with. Not typing her name in your texts can also mean that you may have forgotten her name or perhaps call all girls in the same manner. If the latter is true, it's a huge turn-off for women.
Text conversations and face-to-face conversations are two different things; no use mixing them. Keep formal greetings at bay and get to the good part sooner. You don't have to write a thesis; write lesser, more interesting words or technique to make your point. If you think that the only way to get to know the girl is by sending her long texts, in hopes of receiving similar texts, it's not the right move.
Sending Too Many Texts Before Getting a Reply
Alright, those messages were a disaster. Literally, there is no going back once a guy sends such texts to a girl. I hope you understood why we advice you to stay away from the urge to send such text messages. On a different type of conversation, like sending random texts that serve no purpose, if a guy sends 2 - 3 texts one after the other, without giving the girl a chance to reply to at least one of them, it only invites trouble. This habit shows that the guy is too eager and/or can bring disturbing news. So the advice is, don't do this. Wait, and give the girl some breathing space. Also, just ask the girl out instead of beating around the bush and wasting both of your time.
I guess the smartphones are playing a trick on all of us. Autocorrection of words is something we've all had issues with. So before you press 'Send', make sure that you've typed the words correctly and the message is exactly what you want to say. As for guys who are on the receiving end of such messages, handle sensitive topics like weight, beauty, etc., with utmost care.
Do you normally have the same questions or things to talk about with your friends? Do you wear the same clothes or eat the same food everyday? No, right! Then what's with the habitual questions or messaging at a regular time? Girls want to be surprised and want to talk about different things. If you make the mistake of repeating your conversations with her, she might not respond the next time you text her.
Making Deliberate Dates without Her Consent
Assuming you can make a date without her agreeing to it in the first place? Wow, gutsy, but an immature move. You cannot think that just because the girl gave you her number, she'll automatically go out with you. At that particular moment, while giving you her number, you seemed charming. She needs to know that you're the same person; or maybe more.
Accusing Her of Being Something She May Not Be
You should never, ever accuse a girl of being a player or the fact that she's leading you on. It's rude and doesn't really settle well with girls. If a girl is genuinely busy and/or hasn't been able to reply to your messages once or twice, it doesn't automatically mean she's playing hard to get. On another note, if you do have proof that this has happened on countless occasions, then and only then you're free to assume so (and basically move on).
Sharing Every Detail of the Day with Her
Yes, she seems interested in you. And yes, she's replying to your messages. But don't think that she wants to find out what you're doing at that very moment. Not everything that happens with us in our lives is enjoyable for others. Maybe not sharing every detail is a good thing, and keeping a bit of mystery might intrigue her as well.
Just because you two text one another, doesn't mean she wants to get intimate. A guy should not initiate dirty talks if the girl isn't comfortable with it. Also, stay away from passing inappropriate comments about a girl. If these habits persist, she could choose to block your number and/or report you. So don't make this mistake before knowing what's in her heart.
Being Possessive Before Even Going on a Date
Girls try to stay as far away as possible from possessive boys. So when you start behaving in that manner, that too without even going on a date with her, it crosses over to being scary. Everybody likes their freedom, and when someone, anyone tries to point fingers at it, the situation can get out of hand pretty quickly.
If you're not in your senses, you may not be able to control yourself from texting her. A good way to avoid this situation is to keep your cell phone with a trustworthy friend. This way, you avoid drunk texting and won't jeopardize anything with the girl you're into.
Texting Regularly, then Disappearing
As much as guys hate when girls play hard to get, it's the same for girls as well. When you show interest in a girl and she reciprocates, she's expecting you to take it forward. But when a guy makes the mistake of not keeping in touch and thinks that he can just come back, and things will be alright, he's got another thing coming. Don't treat a girl like she's not important to you.
Taking Too Long to Respond to Her Texts
I didn't see your text. Sorry we couldn't make the plans for last weekend. Maybe some other time?If she messages you on Tuesday, don't wait till Sunday to reply to her text. It's not cool. Plus, she's not going to be waiting around for your reply. Also, this behavior is rude and uncalled-for. Treat a girl with respect and you shall get a positive response. A girl likes it when a guy is attentive and interested in what she has to say. But don't text her back in like 2 seconds; that'll be too weird.
Guys, I'm going to level with you. There are countless moments in life when you will wonder, what does a girl actually want in life. And the answer will always be - uncertain. Girls, at times, really don't know what they're looking for in a guy. This results in unnecessary squabbling and misunderstandings. So the next time you're confused as to what to say in a text, just don't do all the things I've mentioned in this article. And I hope that'll be enough. Good luck!
Texting isn't rocket science, but that doesn't stop some people from making errors which can't be neglected. In our society, we have established certain norms that are expected to be followed. Attraction is a tricky thing. It provides strength to people who are willing to do anything and everything for the other person. With the growth of technology, human interaction has switched from face-to-face conversations to a more digital approach. Therefore, understanding, adapting, and following standard communication practices has become a necessity.
It may seem that only guys fumble for words or end up upsetting the girls they wish to attract. But this isn't the case; even girls can make texting mistakes. So let this article be a guide to anyone and everyone who want to know the pitfalls of sending text messages.
Texting Styles that Turn Women Off
There are many things guys do, that, more often than not, baffle girls. These include sending certain types of texts and not following universally-accepted texting practices. If you don't want to make such mistakes with the girl you're attracted to, make it a point to read the rest of this article.
Instead of the debacle that we just witnessed in the above message, try saying - Hey, (name)! How was your weekend? Hope you haven't forgotten about our date this Wednesday! or I was watching a (movie/TV show name) and (the character's name) reminded me of you. Impressing a girl in your first ever text to her is crucial. Plus, you may not be the only guy interested in her or trying to initiate a conversation. Many guys have the ability to get a girl's number, but how they use it afterwards is the key. What you need to concentrate on is how to make her notice you from the very beginning, and that she's made the right decision by giving you her number.
Boring Messages, Missing Individuality
This is definitely what you don't want to happen. Failing to connect with the girl you like is a disaster; especially when text messages can't convey deep, personal feelings. You want to familiarize yourself with the girl. But that won't happen if you're boring in your texts and can't set yourself apart from the other men who are trying to woo her. Do not make the mistake of thinking that you might be the only one messaging her. She cannot find you interesting enough to text and eventually talk to if you're boring her from the beginning. Be interesting in your approach; don't just message her to find out 'how she is'.
Making Unnecessary Assumptions
This was a simple conversation between two friends or classmates; there can be various other scenarios here. The guy is texting the girl to hold a conversation, stating genuine issue, and trying to get her to respond and involve her into his life. Her replies can mean two things - one, she likes the boy a lot and is happy that he considered her to help him out, and hence, wishes to help him; two, she's helping him out as a friend. More often than not, guys misunderstand why a girl is replying to their texts. You may jump to the conclusion that she's attracted to you, and hence, is moving the conversation forward. So the point is, don't jump to conclusions or make assumptions before having The talk regarding how each of you feel about one another. Random, day-to-day conversations don't mean a lot when you see the big picture.
Not Mentioning the Girl's Name
Girls don't like it when you address them with words like beautiful, gorgeous, honey, sweetie, etc.; it looks really disrespectful when instead of using these words as a compliment, it is used to acknowledge them with. Not typing her name in your texts can also mean that you may have forgotten her name or perhaps call all girls in the same manner. If the latter is true, it's a huge turn-off for women.
Text conversations and face-to-face conversations are two different things; no use mixing them. Keep formal greetings at bay and get to the good part sooner. You don't have to write a thesis; write lesser, more interesting words or technique to make your point. If you think that the only way to get to know the girl is by sending her long texts, in hopes of receiving similar texts, it's not the right move.
Sending Too Many Texts Before Getting a Reply
Alright, those messages were a disaster. Literally, there is no going back once a guy sends such texts to a girl. I hope you understood why we advice you to stay away from the urge to send such text messages. On a different type of conversation, like sending random texts that serve no purpose, if a guy sends 2 - 3 texts one after the other, without giving the girl a chance to reply to at least one of them, it only invites trouble. This habit shows that the guy is too eager and/or can bring disturbing news. So the advice is, don't do this. Wait, and give the girl some breathing space. Also, just ask the girl out instead of beating around the bush and wasting both of your time.
I guess the smartphones are playing a trick on all of us. Autocorrection of words is something we've all had issues with. So before you press 'Send', make sure that you've typed the words correctly and the message is exactly what you want to say. As for guys who are on the receiving end of such messages, handle sensitive topics like weight, beauty, etc., with utmost care.
Do you normally have the same questions or things to talk about with your friends? Do you wear the same clothes or eat the same food everyday? No, right! Then what's with the habitual questions or messaging at a regular time? Girls want to be surprised and want to talk about different things. If you make the mistake of repeating your conversations with her, she might not respond the next time you text her.
Making Deliberate Dates without Her Consent
Assuming you can make a date without her agreeing to it in the first place? Wow, gutsy, but an immature move. You cannot think that just because the girl gave you her number, she'll automatically go out with you. At that particular moment, while giving you her number, you seemed charming. She needs to know that you're the same person; or maybe more.
Accusing Her of Being Something She May Not Be
You should never, ever accuse a girl of being a player or the fact that she's leading you on. It's rude and doesn't really settle well with girls. If a girl is genuinely busy and/or hasn't been able to reply to your messages once or twice, it doesn't automatically mean she's playing hard to get. On another note, if you do have proof that this has happened on countless occasions, then and only then you're free to assume so (and basically move on).
Sharing Every Detail of the Day with Her
Yes, she seems interested in you. And yes, she's replying to your messages. But don't think that she wants to find out what you're doing at that very moment. Not everything that happens with us in our lives is enjoyable for others. Maybe not sharing every detail is a good thing, and keeping a bit of mystery might intrigue her as well.
Just because you two text one another, doesn't mean she wants to get intimate. A guy should not initiate dirty talks if the girl isn't comfortable with it. Also, stay away from passing inappropriate comments about a girl. If these habits persist, she could choose to block your number and/or report you. So don't make this mistake before knowing what's in her heart.
Being Possessive Before Even Going on a Date
Girls try to stay as far away as possible from possessive boys. So when you start behaving in that manner, that too without even going on a date with her, it crosses over to being scary. Everybody likes their freedom, and when someone, anyone tries to point fingers at it, the situation can get out of hand pretty quickly.
If you're not in your senses, you may not be able to control yourself from texting her. A good way to avoid this situation is to keep your cell phone with a trustworthy friend. This way, you avoid drunk texting and won't jeopardize anything with the girl you're into.
Texting Regularly, then Disappearing
As much as guys hate when girls play hard to get, it's the same for girls as well. When you show interest in a girl and she reciprocates, she's expecting you to take it forward. But when a guy makes the mistake of not keeping in touch and thinks that he can just come back, and things will be alright, he's got another thing coming. Don't treat a girl like she's not important to you.
Taking Too Long to Respond to Her Texts
I didn't see your text. Sorry we couldn't make the plans for last weekend. Maybe some other time?If she messages you on Tuesday, don't wait till Sunday to reply to her text. It's not cool. Plus, she's not going to be waiting around for your reply. Also, this behavior is rude and uncalled-for. Treat a girl with respect and you shall get a positive response. A girl likes it when a guy is attentive and interested in what she has to say. But don't text her back in like 2 seconds; that'll be too weird.
Guys, I'm going to level with you. There are countless moments in life when you will wonder, what does a girl actually want in life. And the answer will always be - uncertain. Girls, at times, really don't know what they're looking for in a guy. This results in unnecessary squabbling and misunderstandings. So the next time you're confused as to what to say in a text, just don't do all the things I've mentioned in this article. And I hope that'll be enough. Good luck!
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