Things You Should Never Say to Your Ex

I will never regret him, or say that I wish I never met him, because once upon a time, he was exactly what I was looking for. ~ Unknown

To simplify being with your ex, try avoiding a few things. Although the two of you might share a comfort zone for sometime, there are certain things which cannot be said.

Let's take a look at some of the things that you should never say to your ex.

You Are So Cheap

Being cheap is not what a man intends or plans to do when he is around you. In fact, paying for your shopping and dinners gives men a sort of an ego boost, as it puts them in the position of being a provider. Surely, he's done whatever he could while the two of you were together. Maybe he had occasionally paid for your girlfriends too. So, remember the times when he's done it and let go when he hasn't. Words like these would definitely sting like a bee, so be careful with your temper.

It is All Your Fault

Never is this statement true, and all it creates is unnecessary drama, which could lead to another fight. Remember, it always takes two of tango. In a worst case scenario, say in an abusive relationship or a dominating relationship, one person is a constant victim, as they fear retaliating, and the other keeps taking advantage of it. So the fault may differ in proportion or kind, but it definitely never rests on just one person.

You and My Mom Are the Same

If there was no difference between her and your mother, then you both would be doing the same things that you and your girlfriend do. So, the difference here is quite self-explanatory! Also, you need to understand that when she was mothering you, she meant those things out of care and concern for you. If those are not the things you expected from her, there is no point saying it now, as it is over!

You Should Have...

Do not even go there! There is always a long list of things that she should have and she could have. But the point remains that, she didn't, and importantly, you didn't say it then. So there remains no meaning to bringing up this topic now. Also, if you really intend to make her listen to these hypotheses, then be ready for a long list which she might draw up.

You Were the Reason Why I'm So Depressed

You were old enough to get into a relationship and take your decisions then. You didn't quite blame anyone when you got into a commitment. When it did not turn out to be what you expected, you decided to end it. So when every decision is yours, how can you blame someone else for your mental state? Being depressed is your issue and not hers. And if you've already ended the relationship, the cause is gone too. So kindly take responsibility for your actions, and see a shrink if needed.

I will never regret him, or say that I wish I never met him, because once upon a time, he was exactly what I was looking for. ~ Unknown

To simplify being with your ex, try avoiding a few things. Although the two of you might share a comfort zone for sometime, there are certain things which cannot be said.

Let's take a look at some of the things that you should never say to your ex.

You Are So Cheap

Being cheap is not what a man intends or plans to do when he is around you. In fact, paying for your shopping and dinners gives men a sort of an ego boost, as it puts them in the position of being a provider. Surely, he's done whatever he could while the two of you were together. Maybe he had occasionally paid for your girlfriends too. So, remember the times when he's done it and let go when he hasn't. Words like these would definitely sting like a bee, so be careful with your temper.

It is All Your Fault

Never is this statement true, and all it creates is unnecessary drama, which could lead to another fight. Remember, it always takes two of tango. In a worst case scenario, say in an abusive relationship or a dominating relationship, one person is a constant victim, as they fear retaliating, and the other keeps taking advantage of it. So the fault may differ in proportion or kind, but it definitely never rests on just one person.

You and My Mom Are the Same

If there was no difference between her and your mother, then you both would be doing the same things that you and your girlfriend do. So, the difference here is quite self-explanatory! Also, you need to understand that when she was mothering you, she meant those things out of care and concern for you. If those are not the things you expected from her, there is no point saying it now, as it is over!

You Should Have...

Do not even go there! There is always a long list of things that she should have and she could have. But the point remains that, she didn't, and importantly, you didn't say it then. So there remains no meaning to bringing up this topic now. Also, if you really intend to make her listen to these hypotheses, then be ready for a long list which she might draw up.

You Were the Reason Why I'm So Depressed

You were old enough to get into a relationship and take your decisions then. You didn't quite blame anyone when you got into a commitment. When it did not turn out to be what you expected, you decided to end it. So when every decision is yours, how can you blame someone else for your mental state? Being depressed is your issue and not hers. And if you've already ended the relationship, the cause is gone too. So kindly take responsibility for your actions, and see a shrink if needed.