Strengths that Shy People Possess

There's a saying, "look before you leap", and perhaps no one sticks to it better than a shy guy or girl. Not that they can help, really, for it is something that is ingrained in their nature. Shy people very rarely make snap judgments, and more often than not, this works to their favor. Sometimes, it pays to take some time to consider the pros and cons before taking the final call. However, shy people might find themselves in a fix in situations that demand quick action. Studies show that shy people are more adept at reading the faces of people, and can better identify different facial expressions.

If one is shy or an introvert, he/she is reluctant in reaching out to people and asking for help. This makes shy people independent and self-reliant from a very young age.

It has been observed that shy kids are likely to develop qualities such as empathy and spiritual sensitivity from an early age.

Shy people are keen observers of people and surroundings, paying attention to little details.

The quiet and reserved nature of shy people have a calming effect on the people around them.

Contrary to popular belief, shy people can be good leaders. This is due to their ability to listen effectively and empathize with the feelings of others.

There's a saying, "look before you leap", and perhaps no one sticks to it better than a shy guy or girl. Not that they can help, really, for it is something that is ingrained in their nature. Shy people very rarely make snap judgments, and more often than not, this works to their favor. Sometimes, it pays to take some time to consider the pros and cons before taking the final call. However, shy people might find themselves in a fix in situations that demand quick action. Studies show that shy people are more adept at reading the faces of people, and can better identify different facial expressions.

If one is shy or an introvert, he/she is reluctant in reaching out to people and asking for help. This makes shy people independent and self-reliant from a very young age.

It has been observed that shy kids are likely to develop qualities such as empathy and spiritual sensitivity from an early age.

Shy people are keen observers of people and surroundings, paying attention to little details.

The quiet and reserved nature of shy people have a calming effect on the people around them.

Contrary to popular belief, shy people can be good leaders. This is due to their ability to listen effectively and empathize with the feelings of others.

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Things Your Wedding Planner Won't Tell You

Every wedding planner wants to show her client that she's the best at what she does. This means, under no circumstance, can she make an error of any kind. Mind you, in the wedding industry an error by omission is more frowned upon than an error by commission. So, if your planner happens to forget something, it's very likely (unless she can't bear the big blotch on her conscience) that she simply won't tell you about it. She'll cleverly have it included in the process but won't let you find out.

*Tip: To make sure that you don't end up paying for stuff that you didn't know you were paying for, maintain a paper trail of everything you order, purchase, get made, etc. Make sure you have all final decisions written down somewhere for quick reference.

Every wedding planner wants to show her client that she's the best at what she does. This means, under no circumstance, can she make an error of any kind. Mind you, in the wedding industry an error by omission is more frowned upon than an error by commission. So, if your planner happens to forget something, it's very likely (unless she can't bear the big blotch on her conscience) that she simply won't tell you about it. She'll cleverly have it included in the process but won't let you find out.

*Tip: To make sure that you don't end up paying for stuff that you didn't know you were paying for, maintain a paper trail of everything you order, purchase, get made, etc. Make sure you have all final decisions written down somewhere for quick reference.

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Things Not to Eat on a First Date

She is the girl of your dreams, who makes your heart go pitter-patter every time she passes by and finally after all the waiting, you ask her out, and she says a "yes." Hold on, don't jump for joy just yet. This is probably the easiest part. Now starts the trials and tribulations associated with the all important "first date". You might be shaking your head and wondering what is so difficult about it. Oh! Just about everything.

From choosing the perfect clothes to finding the most romantic location, planning a first date can be a tiring job. The safest place you say would be a fancy restaurant then. After all there is good food, wine, and music. What could possibly go wrong in such a beautiful setting?

Many first dates that revolve around food and dinner have the potential of being a complete catastrophe, and will more often plunge you into the depths of awkward silence for the rest of dinner or lead to your fuming date rushing out of the restaurant. It is true that having immense amount of yummy food can create a bonding experience that you will probably be reminiscing about how you finished that stuffed burrito in ten minutes, after a year of happiness together, but really do you want to worry about food stuck on your teeth and the bad smell emanating from your mouth. Just imagine the reaction of your poor date. Well, if you are one of those people who have planned the first date in a fancy restaurant, then watch out for some foods that are potential first-date killers.

Garlic and Onions: One Whiff is All it Takes

Huge amounts of garlic and onions in food can not only ruin the chances of kissing your date at the end of the night but will also have your date flinching every time you open your mouth. The pungent flavor of these foods turn into hydrogen sulfide (think: rotten eggs) after digestion. The horrible garlic breath and its lingering punch will ensure that you eat your dinner all alone because your date just made a hasty exit.
Spaghetti: Darn the Spaghetti Kiss

Try as you might, it is difficult to get the spaghetti kiss from the Disney movie Lady and the Tramp out of your mind. The two canine lovers slurping on a single strand of spaghetti from both sides and eating their way till their lips meet seems oh so romantic! And not to forget that last meatball which the lover nudges on to his lady love.

While the lovey-dovey picture may work for our canine friends, it's hard to understand how spaghetti can be anything but messy and ugly on the first date. So instead of the movie scene, picture the tomato sauce from the spaghetti dish flying around everywhere and landing on your face, your expensive clothes and your date's hair. If you take care to avoid this disaster you will anyway end up spending the entire meal twirling the spaghetti to focus on your date's conversation anyway. Oh, did I mention that slurping is not at all romantic.

Shellfish: As Romantic as Jack the "Ripper"

Imagine trying to have a conversation with an unknown person on the first date while he or she is gleefully ripping apart the heads of lobsters and prawns. Not only is it hard to picture the person romantically (unless you are into psycho killers), but the messy business and fishy smell are a definite no-no on the first date. In fact, it is best to avoid foods that require you to use your bare hands on the first date. Stick to the fork and spoon please.
Spinach: For the "Picky Eaters"

How can an unassuming, innocent-looking spinach ruin your date? You may get the answer when you check your teeth at the end of the night. Spinach leaves stuck to your teeth will not paint a very romantic picture. Of course, picking the food in front of the opposite sex is not very enticing as well. However, if the conversation goes like "Is it still there?" and "No, it is gone" then you probably will not be having a second date anyway.

Note: This applies for salad greens, foods with lots of parsley, tender bits of meat and corn on cob as well.

Chicken Legs and Ribs: A Messy Affair

Yes, they taste delicious but can you imagine the look on your date's face when you are eating those barbeque chicken legs like a caveman with the sauce dripping off your hands and smearing the face. Moreover, if you take the spicy version you will probably have your nose or even your hot date running too.

Note: This applies to huge hamburgers as well. Apart from the fact that you are cheap enough to take your date out for a burger, it is advisable not to horrify her by trying to put foods that do not fit into your mouth. It simply does not paint a pretty picture.

Spicy Food: Churns up a Sweat Factory

You are in the middle of a really interesting conversation and suddenly you find your date picking up a napkin to wipe his or her face every time. You then wonder when did things get too hot to handle. Well, for your date it might just have. Spicy food not only sets your tongue on fire but also makes you sweat more. Not to forget the frequent bathroom trips of course.
Beans and Eggplant: Gassy Business

Beans and eggplant lead to flatulence and your date would definitely not want to hang around with that "smell in the air." Unless you want to invite trouble and a whole lot of gastrointestinal disorders on the first date, avoid these foods at all costs.


The cheese melting off everywhere, you scooping it with the taco shells, your hands, your elbows, and even your clothes. This is how disgusting things can get if you get a drippy taco on your first date. Moreover you are so busy keeping the taco together that you have probably forgotten about your date altogether.


Well, they may not be actual killers but they do have the potential to be your second-date killer. Slurping the oysters is disgusting and moreover, all that juice running down the arm and staining your expensive shirt will kill any amorous intentions that your date might have towards you.


You wanted to impress your date by ordering a salad or just soup as the main course. Now the rest of the meal you have to concentrate more on listening to your stomach churning in hunger rather than engaging in an interesting conversation with your date.
Foods you Cannot Pronounce: Steer Clear of the Unknown

As much as you would like to impress your date refrain from pronouncing things that you probably have never heard of. Moreover your garbled interpretation of gnocchi which you have just pronounced with the 'G' will probably make your date and the waiter brand you as a stupid, pot-headed idiot.
For the record, stay away from weird foreign dishes which might just turn out to be some animal's not-so-attractive internal organs. It is also not advisable to order the same thing as your date or something from the kid's menu like milk! It just makes you look like an unimaginative person with a brain of the size of a pea who probably still gets his shirts ironed by momma dear. Although this list rules out some of the tastier dinner options, it is best to not look like a blithering idiot on your first date and ensure that you get a second date.

She is the girl of your dreams, who makes your heart go pitter-patter every time she passes by and finally after all the waiting, you ask her out, and she says a "yes." Hold on, don't jump for joy just yet. This is probably the easiest part. Now starts the trials and tribulations associated with the all important "first date". You might be shaking your head and wondering what is so difficult about it. Oh! Just about everything.

From choosing the perfect clothes to finding the most romantic location, planning a first date can be a tiring job. The safest place you say would be a fancy restaurant then. After all there is good food, wine, and music. What could possibly go wrong in such a beautiful setting?

Many first dates that revolve around food and dinner have the potential of being a complete catastrophe, and will more often plunge you into the depths of awkward silence for the rest of dinner or lead to your fuming date rushing out of the restaurant. It is true that having immense amount of yummy food can create a bonding experience that you will probably be reminiscing about how you finished that stuffed burrito in ten minutes, after a year of happiness together, but really do you want to worry about food stuck on your teeth and the bad smell emanating from your mouth. Just imagine the reaction of your poor date. Well, if you are one of those people who have planned the first date in a fancy restaurant, then watch out for some foods that are potential first-date killers.

Garlic and Onions: One Whiff is All it Takes

Huge amounts of garlic and onions in food can not only ruin the chances of kissing your date at the end of the night but will also have your date flinching every time you open your mouth. The pungent flavor of these foods turn into hydrogen sulfide (think: rotten eggs) after digestion. The horrible garlic breath and its lingering punch will ensure that you eat your dinner all alone because your date just made a hasty exit.
Spaghetti: Darn the Spaghetti Kiss

Try as you might, it is difficult to get the spaghetti kiss from the Disney movie Lady and the Tramp out of your mind. The two canine lovers slurping on a single strand of spaghetti from both sides and eating their way till their lips meet seems oh so romantic! And not to forget that last meatball which the lover nudges on to his lady love.

While the lovey-dovey picture may work for our canine friends, it's hard to understand how spaghetti can be anything but messy and ugly on the first date. So instead of the movie scene, picture the tomato sauce from the spaghetti dish flying around everywhere and landing on your face, your expensive clothes and your date's hair. If you take care to avoid this disaster you will anyway end up spending the entire meal twirling the spaghetti to focus on your date's conversation anyway. Oh, did I mention that slurping is not at all romantic.

Shellfish: As Romantic as Jack the "Ripper"

Imagine trying to have a conversation with an unknown person on the first date while he or she is gleefully ripping apart the heads of lobsters and prawns. Not only is it hard to picture the person romantically (unless you are into psycho killers), but the messy business and fishy smell are a definite no-no on the first date. In fact, it is best to avoid foods that require you to use your bare hands on the first date. Stick to the fork and spoon please.
Spinach: For the "Picky Eaters"

How can an unassuming, innocent-looking spinach ruin your date? You may get the answer when you check your teeth at the end of the night. Spinach leaves stuck to your teeth will not paint a very romantic picture. Of course, picking the food in front of the opposite sex is not very enticing as well. However, if the conversation goes like "Is it still there?" and "No, it is gone" then you probably will not be having a second date anyway.

Note: This applies for salad greens, foods with lots of parsley, tender bits of meat and corn on cob as well.

Chicken Legs and Ribs: A Messy Affair

Yes, they taste delicious but can you imagine the look on your date's face when you are eating those barbeque chicken legs like a caveman with the sauce dripping off your hands and smearing the face. Moreover, if you take the spicy version you will probably have your nose or even your hot date running too.

Note: This applies to huge hamburgers as well. Apart from the fact that you are cheap enough to take your date out for a burger, it is advisable not to horrify her by trying to put foods that do not fit into your mouth. It simply does not paint a pretty picture.

Spicy Food: Churns up a Sweat Factory

You are in the middle of a really interesting conversation and suddenly you find your date picking up a napkin to wipe his or her face every time. You then wonder when did things get too hot to handle. Well, for your date it might just have. Spicy food not only sets your tongue on fire but also makes you sweat more. Not to forget the frequent bathroom trips of course.
Beans and Eggplant: Gassy Business

Beans and eggplant lead to flatulence and your date would definitely not want to hang around with that "smell in the air." Unless you want to invite trouble and a whole lot of gastrointestinal disorders on the first date, avoid these foods at all costs.


The cheese melting off everywhere, you scooping it with the taco shells, your hands, your elbows, and even your clothes. This is how disgusting things can get if you get a drippy taco on your first date. Moreover you are so busy keeping the taco together that you have probably forgotten about your date altogether.


Well, they may not be actual killers but they do have the potential to be your second-date killer. Slurping the oysters is disgusting and moreover, all that juice running down the arm and staining your expensive shirt will kill any amorous intentions that your date might have towards you.


You wanted to impress your date by ordering a salad or just soup as the main course. Now the rest of the meal you have to concentrate more on listening to your stomach churning in hunger rather than engaging in an interesting conversation with your date.
Foods you Cannot Pronounce: Steer Clear of the Unknown

As much as you would like to impress your date refrain from pronouncing things that you probably have never heard of. Moreover your garbled interpretation of gnocchi which you have just pronounced with the 'G' will probably make your date and the waiter brand you as a stupid, pot-headed idiot.
For the record, stay away from weird foreign dishes which might just turn out to be some animal's not-so-attractive internal organs. It is also not advisable to order the same thing as your date or something from the kid's menu like milk! It just makes you look like an unimaginative person with a brain of the size of a pea who probably still gets his shirts ironed by momma dear. Although this list rules out some of the tastier dinner options, it is best to not look like a blithering idiot on your first date and ensure that you get a second date.

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Breakup Excuses and What They Mean

Breakups. What can be said about them? They wrench our hearts. Flush our emotions down the drain. Make us feel microscopic. And of course, deal a seriously mighty blow to the one thing we think is always ours - our confidence.

Breakups can make a secure, beautiful, and confident person feel like a lab rat. Even in the rare case of a breakup being amicable, there are bound to be some residual emotions, especially if one person moves on faster than the other. However, if there is something more vexing than this sordid mess of a breakup, it's got to be the reason behind it. There are times when the couple mutually feels that they have moved on, or that the attraction between them has died, following which the relationship ceases to exist. Distance is also known to take its toll on the most solid of relationships.

Justified reasons apart, there are some pretty perplexing lines that people come up with when they are too chicken to be frank enough about the real deal. Such people mistakenly assume that they are trying to shield their better half by cushioning the blow, but the lameness of their excuse simply lets their idiocy shine through.

So, here's some hilarious banter that's often heard from couples en route destination Splitsville...

Best Excuses From The Breakup Hall of Shame

Yeah, it's not you, honey, it's me. I have clearly moved on from this relationship, but I'm still being nice and sugarcoating this breakup. Just so you know, it's really not you... It is me. I've actually got my eyes on someone far better than you.
We just don't have anything in common! Can you imagine I used to get angry at my friends who called you my "truck driver" fantasy? Was I that drunk the day we first decided to go out together? I guess I have been drunk throughout the duration of our relationship. But guess what? I'm sober now. And I'm actually seeing you for what you are, you lousy truck driver!
It's all fizzled out. We were great, but not anymore. Also, I'm getting increasingly attracted to your best friend/sister/mom/roomie. But you're not half bad, so if it doesn't work out with your best friend/sister/mom/roomie, I'd love to have you back. 'Coz you're lovely, and I love you. But I'm not in love with you. No, not right now.
Sigh! You're too good for me!
Well, of course, you're not! You are the chalk to my cheese. You are the burger to my caviar. You are the Banana Republic to my Hermès. You are the Coke to my Perrier-Jouët champagne. You are the Chevy Spark to my Lamborghini Veneno. Now, get off my face before my kindness runs out!
I've got no time for love right now, as I wish to embark upon the bed-hopping spree of a lifetime, and you're being a hindrance to that at the moment. With all the hot and available women in the world, you're expecting me to marry one, and settle down? Sorry, love. Let me continue being a jerk and jerk away to glory.
You are smothering me with your possessiveness, and I'm starting to hate you. This quality of yours seemed endearing at first, but I quite suspect that it's about to endanger me soon if I don't react. Having seen glimpses of your possible serial killer tendencies, I want to make this breakup as painless as possible. For me. From now on, keep your overwhelming perfection to yourself.
I need my space. I need it to explore my freshly picked, myriad hobbies like knitting, faux glass painting, pottery, container gardening, scrapbooking, fruit canning... Basically, anything that does not involve YOU. We're done and over with.
You were a big, humongous mistake. Your dating profile mentioned you look like Johnny Depp. Little did I know that you would be more on the lines of Johnny Depp as Edward Scissorhands. Anyhow, it's getting tougher for me to turn up on a date without wearing my glasses, trying to blur out your silhouette. This is so not going to work, and is getting ickier by the day. So, let's just be friends, okay?
I've already cheated on you. Several times over. Right under your nose. And you're still not getting it. Are you really that dumb? In that case, I really wonder if you do deserve someone better than me.
If there is one reason why I feel I'm not cut out for a relationship, it's got to be YOU. Yes, you. You, who only seems attractive from a distance. You, who has an IQ lower than that of a teacup. You, who cannot hold a conversation with me for more than 40 seconds. You, just get right out of my life.

You know you've dated a sleazeball if you hear the following breakup excuses...

I'm tired of living off your meager salary.

My pet tarantula doesn't think of you as my potential life partner.

If only you belonged to a different religion...!

You're just not the Princess Leia to my Han Solo.

Thank you for making me realize that I'm gay.

I'd really like to focus on my lack of a career right now.

I'm sorry, but size does matter. I was hoping your expanding waistline understood that.

I'm married.

You've changed a lot since the first time we met.

You're just the same since the first time we met.

I really can't hold my urge to cheat anymore.

Our romance is beginning to feel more and more like a bromance.

My democrat pet goldfish finds your pet cat too republican for us to stay together.

As difficult as a breakup may seem, if it was triggered by any of the above excuses, you've got to breathe a sigh of relief. Congratulate yourself on not having to share your precious life with someone so chicken. Just get a dog instead, pal!

Breakups. What can be said about them? They wrench our hearts. Flush our emotions down the drain. Make us feel microscopic. And of course, deal a seriously mighty blow to the one thing we think is always ours - our confidence.

Breakups can make a secure, beautiful, and confident person feel like a lab rat. Even in the rare case of a breakup being amicable, there are bound to be some residual emotions, especially if one person moves on faster than the other. However, if there is something more vexing than this sordid mess of a breakup, it's got to be the reason behind it. There are times when the couple mutually feels that they have moved on, or that the attraction between them has died, following which the relationship ceases to exist. Distance is also known to take its toll on the most solid of relationships.

Justified reasons apart, there are some pretty perplexing lines that people come up with when they are too chicken to be frank enough about the real deal. Such people mistakenly assume that they are trying to shield their better half by cushioning the blow, but the lameness of their excuse simply lets their idiocy shine through.

So, here's some hilarious banter that's often heard from couples en route destination Splitsville...

Best Excuses From The Breakup Hall of Shame

Yeah, it's not you, honey, it's me. I have clearly moved on from this relationship, but I'm still being nice and sugarcoating this breakup. Just so you know, it's really not you... It is me. I've actually got my eyes on someone far better than you.
We just don't have anything in common! Can you imagine I used to get angry at my friends who called you my "truck driver" fantasy? Was I that drunk the day we first decided to go out together? I guess I have been drunk throughout the duration of our relationship. But guess what? I'm sober now. And I'm actually seeing you for what you are, you lousy truck driver!
It's all fizzled out. We were great, but not anymore. Also, I'm getting increasingly attracted to your best friend/sister/mom/roomie. But you're not half bad, so if it doesn't work out with your best friend/sister/mom/roomie, I'd love to have you back. 'Coz you're lovely, and I love you. But I'm not in love with you. No, not right now.
Sigh! You're too good for me!
Well, of course, you're not! You are the chalk to my cheese. You are the burger to my caviar. You are the Banana Republic to my Hermès. You are the Coke to my Perrier-Jouët champagne. You are the Chevy Spark to my Lamborghini Veneno. Now, get off my face before my kindness runs out!
I've got no time for love right now, as I wish to embark upon the bed-hopping spree of a lifetime, and you're being a hindrance to that at the moment. With all the hot and available women in the world, you're expecting me to marry one, and settle down? Sorry, love. Let me continue being a jerk and jerk away to glory.
You are smothering me with your possessiveness, and I'm starting to hate you. This quality of yours seemed endearing at first, but I quite suspect that it's about to endanger me soon if I don't react. Having seen glimpses of your possible serial killer tendencies, I want to make this breakup as painless as possible. For me. From now on, keep your overwhelming perfection to yourself.
I need my space. I need it to explore my freshly picked, myriad hobbies like knitting, faux glass painting, pottery, container gardening, scrapbooking, fruit canning... Basically, anything that does not involve YOU. We're done and over with.
You were a big, humongous mistake. Your dating profile mentioned you look like Johnny Depp. Little did I know that you would be more on the lines of Johnny Depp as Edward Scissorhands. Anyhow, it's getting tougher for me to turn up on a date without wearing my glasses, trying to blur out your silhouette. This is so not going to work, and is getting ickier by the day. So, let's just be friends, okay?
I've already cheated on you. Several times over. Right under your nose. And you're still not getting it. Are you really that dumb? In that case, I really wonder if you do deserve someone better than me.
If there is one reason why I feel I'm not cut out for a relationship, it's got to be YOU. Yes, you. You, who only seems attractive from a distance. You, who has an IQ lower than that of a teacup. You, who cannot hold a conversation with me for more than 40 seconds. You, just get right out of my life.

You know you've dated a sleazeball if you hear the following breakup excuses...

I'm tired of living off your meager salary.

My pet tarantula doesn't think of you as my potential life partner.

If only you belonged to a different religion...!

You're just not the Princess Leia to my Han Solo.

Thank you for making me realize that I'm gay.

I'd really like to focus on my lack of a career right now.

I'm sorry, but size does matter. I was hoping your expanding waistline understood that.

I'm married.

You've changed a lot since the first time we met.

You're just the same since the first time we met.

I really can't hold my urge to cheat anymore.

Our romance is beginning to feel more and more like a bromance.

My democrat pet goldfish finds your pet cat too republican for us to stay together.

As difficult as a breakup may seem, if it was triggered by any of the above excuses, you've got to breathe a sigh of relief. Congratulate yourself on not having to share your precious life with someone so chicken. Just get a dog instead, pal!

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Things You Should Never Tolerate in a Relationship

Our society has predefined norms related to gender role and relationship among young adults. So when an individual does not follow these set norms, it can bring chaos for both individuals involved. Minor fights and arguments are common between partners, where small faults and dislikes are talked about. But when certain undesirable habits or unacceptable behavior become constant, it can create unsolvable issues for any couple.

Of course, compromise is necessary; you can't just leave or break off every relationship you're in just because things aren't as smooth as you wished they would be. But if things are getting out of control and forcing you to stay in an unhappy relationship, then it is time to break free. Nobody wishes to stay in an unsatisfying relationship and suffer in silence. There are some obvious signs, habits, and actions that should never be tolerated. No matter how much you love your partner, there comes a time when you need to stop and say - enough is enough. Men and women are guilty of both, committing and enduring such behavior. Which is why it is important to nip such behavior in the bud, or just exclude yourself out of the equation.

Stop Suffering and Call it Quits When ...
... you sense that your emotions are being toyed with. A loving relationship is like a flower, which requires an ample amount of patience, care, trust, commitment, and compromise to survive and flourish. So when these elements are missing in your relationship, and hurtful behavior makes ceaseless appearances, it's time to put an end to it.





Any relationship, whether it is personal or professional, requires all the parties involved to be treated equally. The same goes for a couple who should be investing equal amounts of time to the relationship, where everything should be shared evenly; this includes chores, responsibilities, time, money, and effort. When one of the two starts to pull back or isn't as committed as the other, the relationship is bound to fail.

Everyone has a past. People make certain choices or mistakes that they are accountable for. If your partner is giving you a hard time about your past relationships or choices you've made, you need to make it clear that this kind of behavior is unacceptable. Whether your choices were right or wrong, they were made by you; and nobody has the power to challenge them because these choices have brought you to where you are today.



Why do we work? It's simple, actually; so we can spend it on food, water, shelter, for our secured future, and the things we want in life. It's easy to spend money, but to do so responsibly is tough. Not everyone knows how to be financially responsible, save for the future, and differentiate between 'want' and 'need'. So if you feel that your partner is spending his/her or your money uncontrollably, it's time to have the talk.

Not being able to communicate properly with the person you're involved with is a deal breaker. It's common to sometimes run out of topics to discuss on. But when you and your partner can't even have a normal conversation, or won't share the details of your lives with one another, how can you expect the relationship to flourish? Lack of communication only increases the distance between a couple, and this gap is difficult to bridge.




When your partner starts keeping tabs on you, or begins snooping through your stuff, you should call him/her on it. Spying is unacceptable, under any circumstances, and should never, ever be tolerated. This behavior from your partner means that they don't trust you completely and need to know what you do at all times. When you haven't done anything wrong and have nothing to hide from your partner, he/she has no right to spy on you.

This is one of the most common, yet neglected behavior among couples. When you start becoming comfortable around your partner, it's natural to listen and do anything and everything he/she says. But there is one thing that is overlooked in such situations - your ideas, beliefs, and opinions are strangled. No matter how long you've been with someone, you cannot let anyone suppress your individuality.
It's easy to say that when something isn't working in a relationship, you should end it and move on. But it becomes tough for those involved in such relationships to actually muster up the courage and do what seems right. So my advice to you is to be absolutely sure about what you want in your relationship and how you wish to be treated. When you are clear with your intentions, no one has the power to bring you down. Author's Note - Recently, I read a book by Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower (which has been made into a movie as well). In the novel, there is a line said by one of the characters that might describe the feelings or thoughts behind people who do tolerate and stay in an unhappy relationship - We accept the love we think we deserve.

Our society has predefined norms related to gender role and relationship among young adults. So when an individual does not follow these set norms, it can bring chaos for both individuals involved. Minor fights and arguments are common between partners, where small faults and dislikes are talked about. But when certain undesirable habits or unacceptable behavior become constant, it can create unsolvable issues for any couple.

Of course, compromise is necessary; you can't just leave or break off every relationship you're in just because things aren't as smooth as you wished they would be. But if things are getting out of control and forcing you to stay in an unhappy relationship, then it is time to break free. Nobody wishes to stay in an unsatisfying relationship and suffer in silence. There are some obvious signs, habits, and actions that should never be tolerated. No matter how much you love your partner, there comes a time when you need to stop and say - enough is enough. Men and women are guilty of both, committing and enduring such behavior. Which is why it is important to nip such behavior in the bud, or just exclude yourself out of the equation.

Stop Suffering and Call it Quits When ...
... you sense that your emotions are being toyed with. A loving relationship is like a flower, which requires an ample amount of patience, care, trust, commitment, and compromise to survive and flourish. So when these elements are missing in your relationship, and hurtful behavior makes ceaseless appearances, it's time to put an end to it.





Any relationship, whether it is personal or professional, requires all the parties involved to be treated equally. The same goes for a couple who should be investing equal amounts of time to the relationship, where everything should be shared evenly; this includes chores, responsibilities, time, money, and effort. When one of the two starts to pull back or isn't as committed as the other, the relationship is bound to fail.

Everyone has a past. People make certain choices or mistakes that they are accountable for. If your partner is giving you a hard time about your past relationships or choices you've made, you need to make it clear that this kind of behavior is unacceptable. Whether your choices were right or wrong, they were made by you; and nobody has the power to challenge them because these choices have brought you to where you are today.



Why do we work? It's simple, actually; so we can spend it on food, water, shelter, for our secured future, and the things we want in life. It's easy to spend money, but to do so responsibly is tough. Not everyone knows how to be financially responsible, save for the future, and differentiate between 'want' and 'need'. So if you feel that your partner is spending his/her or your money uncontrollably, it's time to have the talk.

Not being able to communicate properly with the person you're involved with is a deal breaker. It's common to sometimes run out of topics to discuss on. But when you and your partner can't even have a normal conversation, or won't share the details of your lives with one another, how can you expect the relationship to flourish? Lack of communication only increases the distance between a couple, and this gap is difficult to bridge.




When your partner starts keeping tabs on you, or begins snooping through your stuff, you should call him/her on it. Spying is unacceptable, under any circumstances, and should never, ever be tolerated. This behavior from your partner means that they don't trust you completely and need to know what you do at all times. When you haven't done anything wrong and have nothing to hide from your partner, he/she has no right to spy on you.

This is one of the most common, yet neglected behavior among couples. When you start becoming comfortable around your partner, it's natural to listen and do anything and everything he/she says. But there is one thing that is overlooked in such situations - your ideas, beliefs, and opinions are strangled. No matter how long you've been with someone, you cannot let anyone suppress your individuality.
It's easy to say that when something isn't working in a relationship, you should end it and move on. But it becomes tough for those involved in such relationships to actually muster up the courage and do what seems right. So my advice to you is to be absolutely sure about what you want in your relationship and how you wish to be treated. When you are clear with your intentions, no one has the power to bring you down. Author's Note - Recently, I read a book by Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower (which has been made into a movie as well). In the novel, there is a line said by one of the characters that might describe the feelings or thoughts behind people who do tolerate and stay in an unhappy relationship - We accept the love we think we deserve.

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Things Unhappy People Have in Common

Being judgmental, finding fault, criticizing and complaining about everything, spending time around gloomy people, having low self-esteem, holding grudges, and always assuming the worst, are some common traits that unhappy people possess.

Hugh Downs once said, "A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes." The timeless principle to achieve happiness has always been modifying one's approach towards life, being responsible for one's own happiness, making positive changes from within, and not burying oneself by emotional eating, drinking alcohol, or smoking.

The day we learn to swap our negative thoughts with positive ones, surround ourselves with cheerful people, and enjoy what we have, that day would truly be a memorable day. Life is a beautiful struggle, so try to see the bright side of everything, laugh frequently, and smile before you go to sleep. Remember, only you have the power to change your life.

So are you ready to find out what’s making you unhappy? Then go through this list and make appropriate changes to live a happier life.

The Problem: Unhappy people let family, friends, and colleagues determine what heights, strengths, and goals they can achieve. They dislike themselves when these set goals are not met. They also run around trying to please everyone but themselves. They usually try to fulfill someone else's expectations and dreams, which keeps them unhappy.

How To Change This: Focus and believe in yourself, decide what you want, and what makes you feel good. Write down the things you like about yourself, respect and love yourself first, and the rest (i.e. happiness, joy, peace) will be given to you.

The Problem: Does money make a man happy? Can money really buy peace of mind, true love, happiness or respect? Maybe or maybe not. Worrying and complaining about not having enough money is another aspect that unhappy people have in common. They focus and compare themselves with others, which in turn breaks them down and steals their joy and happiness.

How To Change This: Stop comparing your life with others and start appreciating the things you have. You were not born to live their life. So, stop being jealous of others, and start living your life the way you want it to be.

The Problem: Unhappy people often tend to be preoccupied thinking about their past or future, and seem less focused about their present. Such people seem to over-think everything and complicate the present.

How To Change This: Our life is a mirror of what we think, so think positively to get positive results. Meditate and learn to stop over-thinking about everything. Live in the moment.

The Problem: They have absolutely no hobbies or interests, and spend most of their time on social networking sites. They keep looking at pictures of peers with great social lives having fun, and get easily depressed for not having one.

How To Change This: Simple. Get a hobby. Learn an instrument or a sport, ride a bicycle, go fishing, trekking, swimming, gardening, learn photography, or volunteer for a charity.

The Problem: Research has shown that unhappy people tend to dislike their jobs the most. They feel meaningless and stuck doing what they do for a living. They spend most of their Sunday evening worrying about their Monday morning.

How To Change This: Look for another job, and if you can’t change your job, then change your attitude towards it, and stop complicating your life. Focus on the things you want, learn from your mistakes, and pursue your dreams.

The Problem: A recent study suggests that long-distance commuting impacts not only health and relationships, but also happiness. And unhappy people tend to commute a lot, which in turn, drains the life out of them.

How To Change This: Buy or rent a house closer to work. If you can't afford one, or rather prefer a more spacious house than a cramped apartment, then there are innumerable things you could do when stuck in traffic, like read, pray, listen to good music, etc.

The Problem: Some say pets are an ultimate antidote and a powerful form of stress relief, and I couldn't agree more. But, unhappy people consider them to be an added responsibility, and so don't like keeping any pets.

How To Change This: Start with the simplest one, like a bird, guinea pig, hamster, or fish, and then gradually move on to a dog or a cat. Believe me, they are great companions, loyal, and provide unconditional, stress-free love.

The Problem: Unhappy people tend to fill the void in their lives with luxury goods and wealth, and equate them to happiness and fulfillment. But materialism breeds only unhappiness and gives temporary joy.

How To Change This: Ask and question yourself before making any purchase. Learn to be satisfied with what you have, and become a responsible spender, who spends money wisely and only on necessary items.

The Problem: Loneliness is yet another aspect that unhappy people have in common. They prefer socializing on the web, rather than mingling with someone face-to-face. This type of behavior is not good, and is linked with numerous health issues, from depression to stress-related diseases.

How To Change This: Participate or volunteer for a charity, meet new people, or talk to an old friend. Go out, exercise, hike, trek, and try out something new.

The Problem: Unhappy people find nothing worthwhile to do in the city they live in, and literally complain about everything, even the little things that don’t really matter. They regard their town with contempt, and detest the neighborhood by finding fault in all things around.

How To Change This: Find a new place to live in. If this is not an option, then ask other people and research more about the things or activities you can do in that particular town.

If you want to change this state of being unhappy to staying happy, then all you need to do is change your thoughts or attitude. Your happiness is in your own hands and not in someone else's. So take charge of your life, think more about what you have, be grateful for it, and aim for more. Visualize yourself living in abundance, and discover your purpose in life. Make a list and write down the things you want to accomplish. As research has shown - people with written goals are more likely to succeed than others, and people with no purpose or aim are the ones who stay unhappy for the rest of their lives. So don't delay, attend to your joy and purpose first, be happy, grateful, and start treating yourself with love and respect. As you start loving yourself, you'll automatically start loving others, your job, your neighborhood, and your life.

Being judgmental, finding fault, criticizing and complaining about everything, spending time around gloomy people, having low self-esteem, holding grudges, and always assuming the worst, are some common traits that unhappy people possess.

Hugh Downs once said, "A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes." The timeless principle to achieve happiness has always been modifying one's approach towards life, being responsible for one's own happiness, making positive changes from within, and not burying oneself by emotional eating, drinking alcohol, or smoking.

The day we learn to swap our negative thoughts with positive ones, surround ourselves with cheerful people, and enjoy what we have, that day would truly be a memorable day. Life is a beautiful struggle, so try to see the bright side of everything, laugh frequently, and smile before you go to sleep. Remember, only you have the power to change your life.

So are you ready to find out what’s making you unhappy? Then go through this list and make appropriate changes to live a happier life.

The Problem: Unhappy people let family, friends, and colleagues determine what heights, strengths, and goals they can achieve. They dislike themselves when these set goals are not met. They also run around trying to please everyone but themselves. They usually try to fulfill someone else's expectations and dreams, which keeps them unhappy.

How To Change This: Focus and believe in yourself, decide what you want, and what makes you feel good. Write down the things you like about yourself, respect and love yourself first, and the rest (i.e. happiness, joy, peace) will be given to you.

The Problem: Does money make a man happy? Can money really buy peace of mind, true love, happiness or respect? Maybe or maybe not. Worrying and complaining about not having enough money is another aspect that unhappy people have in common. They focus and compare themselves with others, which in turn breaks them down and steals their joy and happiness.

How To Change This: Stop comparing your life with others and start appreciating the things you have. You were not born to live their life. So, stop being jealous of others, and start living your life the way you want it to be.

The Problem: Unhappy people often tend to be preoccupied thinking about their past or future, and seem less focused about their present. Such people seem to over-think everything and complicate the present.

How To Change This: Our life is a mirror of what we think, so think positively to get positive results. Meditate and learn to stop over-thinking about everything. Live in the moment.

The Problem: They have absolutely no hobbies or interests, and spend most of their time on social networking sites. They keep looking at pictures of peers with great social lives having fun, and get easily depressed for not having one.

How To Change This: Simple. Get a hobby. Learn an instrument or a sport, ride a bicycle, go fishing, trekking, swimming, gardening, learn photography, or volunteer for a charity.

The Problem: Research has shown that unhappy people tend to dislike their jobs the most. They feel meaningless and stuck doing what they do for a living. They spend most of their Sunday evening worrying about their Monday morning.

How To Change This: Look for another job, and if you can’t change your job, then change your attitude towards it, and stop complicating your life. Focus on the things you want, learn from your mistakes, and pursue your dreams.

The Problem: A recent study suggests that long-distance commuting impacts not only health and relationships, but also happiness. And unhappy people tend to commute a lot, which in turn, drains the life out of them.

How To Change This: Buy or rent a house closer to work. If you can't afford one, or rather prefer a more spacious house than a cramped apartment, then there are innumerable things you could do when stuck in traffic, like read, pray, listen to good music, etc.

The Problem: Some say pets are an ultimate antidote and a powerful form of stress relief, and I couldn't agree more. But, unhappy people consider them to be an added responsibility, and so don't like keeping any pets.

How To Change This: Start with the simplest one, like a bird, guinea pig, hamster, or fish, and then gradually move on to a dog or a cat. Believe me, they are great companions, loyal, and provide unconditional, stress-free love.

The Problem: Unhappy people tend to fill the void in their lives with luxury goods and wealth, and equate them to happiness and fulfillment. But materialism breeds only unhappiness and gives temporary joy.

How To Change This: Ask and question yourself before making any purchase. Learn to be satisfied with what you have, and become a responsible spender, who spends money wisely and only on necessary items.

The Problem: Loneliness is yet another aspect that unhappy people have in common. They prefer socializing on the web, rather than mingling with someone face-to-face. This type of behavior is not good, and is linked with numerous health issues, from depression to stress-related diseases.

How To Change This: Participate or volunteer for a charity, meet new people, or talk to an old friend. Go out, exercise, hike, trek, and try out something new.

The Problem: Unhappy people find nothing worthwhile to do in the city they live in, and literally complain about everything, even the little things that don’t really matter. They regard their town with contempt, and detest the neighborhood by finding fault in all things around.

How To Change This: Find a new place to live in. If this is not an option, then ask other people and research more about the things or activities you can do in that particular town.

If you want to change this state of being unhappy to staying happy, then all you need to do is change your thoughts or attitude. Your happiness is in your own hands and not in someone else's. So take charge of your life, think more about what you have, be grateful for it, and aim for more. Visualize yourself living in abundance, and discover your purpose in life. Make a list and write down the things you want to accomplish. As research has shown - people with written goals are more likely to succeed than others, and people with no purpose or aim are the ones who stay unhappy for the rest of their lives. So don't delay, attend to your joy and purpose first, be happy, grateful, and start treating yourself with love and respect. As you start loving yourself, you'll automatically start loving others, your job, your neighborhood, and your life.

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