How to Know If a Person is Emotionally Unavailable?

In the initial stages of your relationship you assume your partner is an introvert. You think to yourself, over time, he/she will change and be more open to publicly accepting you. Headstrong that you are, you decide to change this person with your love. But does this really happen? Well, if you are lucky enough, this miracle may be a reality. Just in case you have fallen for someone who is evasive and has emotionally shut him/her to the world then you are in hard luck. Sweetie, brace yourself, this person is just not that into you.

Does your partner avoid questions regarding...
... the past
... the plans for the future
... problems in the family
... relationship with the family

Does your partner share with you his/her...
... feelings about work or people in particular
... thought process
... opinions

Are you perpetually...
... giving more than you receive
... the decision maker
... the communicator

If you've answered yes to most of these questions, you already know the answer. Your partner has provided you with an incomplete picture and there is no guarantee that this will ever get complete. You might never get to see the other side of him/her and yes, this person will continue to evade your questions, ignore your emotions and present you with a plethora of excuses.

Honey, I'm busy. We'll talk later
How often does this happen?
You: Baby, can we go out for dinner tonight?
You partner: No darling, not today I'm a bit occupied.

You: Sweetie, you know I'd be worried. Why didn't you call?
Your partner: Oh sorry honey, I got stuck with something.

Okay people, here's your cue to probably quit thinking about this Miss/Mr. perfect. You do not want yourself to be left with an achy-breaky heart, do you? (P.S. You can pardon the occasional excuse of not being available.)

Besides, if it's always you who is making the effort of keeping in touch then what's the use?

In the initial stages of your relationship you assume your partner is an introvert. You think to yourself, over time, he/she will change and be more open to publicly accepting you. Headstrong that you are, you decide to change this person with your love. But does this really happen? Well, if you are lucky enough, this miracle may be a reality. Just in case you have fallen for someone who is evasive and has emotionally shut him/her to the world then you are in hard luck. Sweetie, brace yourself, this person is just not that into you.

Does your partner avoid questions regarding...
... the past
... the plans for the future
... problems in the family
... relationship with the family

Does your partner share with you his/her...
... feelings about work or people in particular
... thought process
... opinions

Are you perpetually...
... giving more than you receive
... the decision maker
... the communicator

If you've answered yes to most of these questions, you already know the answer. Your partner has provided you with an incomplete picture and there is no guarantee that this will ever get complete. You might never get to see the other side of him/her and yes, this person will continue to evade your questions, ignore your emotions and present you with a plethora of excuses.

Honey, I'm busy. We'll talk later
How often does this happen?
You: Baby, can we go out for dinner tonight?
You partner: No darling, not today I'm a bit occupied.

You: Sweetie, you know I'd be worried. Why didn't you call?
Your partner: Oh sorry honey, I got stuck with something.

Okay people, here's your cue to probably quit thinking about this Miss/Mr. perfect. You do not want yourself to be left with an achy-breaky heart, do you? (P.S. You can pardon the occasional excuse of not being available.)

Besides, if it's always you who is making the effort of keeping in touch then what's the use?